Verbal Abuse Impact on Children

Feelings of low mental well-being, Self-harm, Drug use, Binge drinking, Time in prison, Victim of violence, and Perpetrator of violence are some of the categories that are increased when children experience verbally abusive parental behavior during their childhood. 

Many parents, and even the children, don't realize these residual effects can happen all the way into adulthood. When parents engage in behaviors like speaking harshly to their child, calling them names like "stupid", shouting, and verbal threats, damage can be done. Studies show, that because children often identify with their parents, this can subsequently lead to how children follow suit in abusing their own selves. 

Results of new studies, are even indicative that verbal abuse in many cases can damage a child even more than being physically or sexually abused.  Neurologically, a child's brain is very vulnerable and can be bombarded with cortisol if put in a constant state of terror by their parents. (links below)

Before losing your patience with your child, try to remember that words are more powerful than we perceive. It's not just what you say, but it's also how you say things as a parent. When your temper is tested...pause, take a deep breath, and try your best to lead with love.

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Guardian Article: ​https://www.theguardian.com/society/2023/oct/02/shouting-at-children-can-be-as-damaging-as-physical-or-sexual-abuse-study-says
Verbal Abuse Study: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/3651980/
Verbal vs. Sexual Abuse Study: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7683637/