Heritage Therapy Blog
Blog will highlight peer-reviewed studies, and other pertinent info
Feelings of low mental well-being, Self-harm, Drug use, Binge drinking, Time in prison, Victim of violence, and Perpetrator of violence are some of the categories that are increased when children experience verbally abusive parental behavior during their childhood.
Many parents, and even the children, don't realize these residual effects can happen all the way into adulthood. When parents engage in behaviors like speaking harshly to their child, calling them names like "stupid", shouting, and verbal threats, damage can be done. Studies show, that because children often identify with their parents, this can subsequently lead to how children follow suit in abusing their own selves.
Results of new studies, are even indicative that verbal abuse in many cases can damage a child even more than being physically or sexually abused. Neurologically, a child's brain is very vulnerable and can be bombarded with cortisol if put in a constant state of terror by their parents. (links below)
Before losing your patience with your child, try to remember that words are more powerful than we perceive. It's not just what you say, but it's also how you say things as a parent. When your temper is tested...pause, take a deep breath, and try your best to lead with love.
Guardian Article: https://www.theguardian.com/society/2023/oct/02/shouting-at-children-can-be-as-damaging-as-physical-or-sexual-abuse-study-says
Verbal Abuse Study: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/3651980/
Verbal vs. Sexual Abuse Study: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7683637/
A new CDC study, (link below), suggests that mistreatment during maternity care happens more than previously known. The data suggests this impacts minority races, and women who don't have private insurance more proportionally. Here are some pointers for fathers to prevent any senseless damage to the mother or child.
Due Diligence- Interviewing and researching different care provider options with the goal of finding "respectful care", by looking for credible reviews.
Believing the Mother- Encourage her to speak up by empowering her voice. Many times, mothers try to endure and end up "suffering in silence" because they are told that it's normal, or they are afraid of making it a "big deal".
Be Vigilant- Do not hesitate to change providers if needed. Encourage her to trust her intuition. Many mothers are able to sense when something is wrong, but they just need to feel supported to be able to speak their concerns.
Every childbirth is precious! Avoid any physical or mental health implications by staying purposeful and informed!
Christiana Aggreh -